Marriage

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.  It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.  Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.  It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.  Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. 1 Cor 13:4-8

Marriage in the Catholic Church is more than the celebration of a couple’s love for each other. While the Church rejoices in your love, we also recognize God who is the author of your love. These guidelines have been established so that this time of joy will not only be an experience filled with happiness but also one that expressed faith and reverence in God in whose love we have been created. The following are some common questions and answers about this sacrament.

MAY I BE MARRIED AT ST. MATTHIAS?

If you wish to be married at St. Matthias, it is desirable that one of you be a resident and parishioner of St. Matthias Parish. If neither of you live in our parish, then it is necessary to have permission of your own pastor before we can celebrate your wedding.

HOW SOON BEFORE MY WEDDING SHOULD I CONTACT THE CHURCH?

It is necessary that you speak with one of the clergy of our parish not less than six months before your proposed wedding date. This six-month preparation period is the policy of the Archdiocese of San Francisco and cannot be dispensed with at the parish level.

WHAT DOCUMENTS DO I NEED?

If you are Catholic, you will need to present a recently-issued baptismal certificate (issued within the last six months). Write or phone the Church where you were baptized to obtain a newly-issued certificate. Baptized non-Catholics must also present a record of their baptism.

WHAT IF MY FUTURE SPOUSE IS NOT CATHOLIC?

You may get married at St. Matthias. Often the marriage between a Catholic and a non-Catholic carries other obstacles or impediments not necessarily related to baptismal status. These potential obstacles can only be determined on consultation with one of our parish clergy members.

WHAT KIND OF PREPARATION MUST I/WE HAVE BEFORE OUR WEDDING?

In the initial interview with the parish clergy (priest or deacon) you will receive an explanation of the various steps necessary for adequate preparation to celebrate your wedding at St. Matthias. The expectation is that both members of the couple are willing and able to participate in all aspects of the marriage preparation process.

If you have additional questions, or would like to schedule an appointment to consult with Deacon Rich about this, click here.